Cleaning toilets and Children’s Ministry have a lot in common, if either one is messy, people won’t return.
The kingdom of God has often been described as the upside down kingdom. If you want to be great you must become like a child or a servant.
“At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore,
whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.” (Mathew 18:1-5, NIV)
“Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead,
whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all.” (Mark 10:42-44, NIV)
Recently I have had the privilege of doing some custodial work in a church. I say privilege because of the lessons that you learn and the people you are able to minister to by serving in this capacity have been eye-opening. For example: Did you know that people will overlook a little dirt in the sanctuary quicker than a little dirt in the restroom? It’s true! I have had people tell me they judge a place by the cleanliness of a restroom to determine if they will return no matter what they have to offer.
It’s also amazing what you learn about people by what they notice. A detail oriented person notices the fingerprints on the piano. A visionary likes to see clean windows. There are also those that are a mixed bag of conflicts, like the ones who wash their hands and are careful not to touch the door handle while exiting the restroom by using the paper towel to open the door, then drops the towel on the floor for someone else to pick up their germs. People are so fascinating to watch as you get to know them and each one is different!
The Bible talks about believers being part of the body of Christ. There are some parts that are more honorable than others yet each one is important! It also talks about some who are dissatisfied with their role in the body of Christ. Sometimes people get themselves into conflict or trouble by trying to be a part of the body they were not meant to be. Everyone cannot be the eye, etc. Just like in today’s society we have a glut of armchair coaches, we also have some who try to be pew-sitting pastors, people who criticize a pastor and say things like, “If I were the pastor, I would never...” It’s funny but I do not find “pew sitting pastors” as one of the parts God gave to the church for the edification of believers. Envy of other’s position because it looks more fun or is esteemed with greater honor is a problem in some churches. Fad ministries drain resources from mainstream ministries. Just because something is new and popular does not mean that God is switching you from the current ministry for which He has called you. The key to being happy and satisfied in a church is for each person to be the part God has made him/her to be. I Corinthians 12:18-20 “But in fact
God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.”
Just as in the body some parts have more honor than other parts, there are some ministry opportunities that have more honor than others, but each one is important. The pastor of a church seems to have the highest honor followed by others in a varying hierarchy depending upon the makeup of the church. Often the low end of honor falls on those working in the nursery of a church. After all, who wants to spend their time changing dirty diapers and wiping snotty noses? Kind of like the custodian who has to clean toilets. Children’s ministry is sometimes the last place people want to be involved and yet it is in children’s ministry where you will see some of the most dramatic growth in a person’s life. With children you are a part of molding their beliefs from the very beginning. When a child feels welcomed and loved entering a nursery his/her concept of God is one of being welcoming and loving. Children and some adults tend to think church and God are synonymous. As they grow, their understanding of God grows beyond the four walls of a building.
It’s amazing what people look for when they visit a church. Most families will look to see what you have to offer for their children upon entering a church. If it seems not much attention if given to the children or if the rooms are messy and disorganized and the teacher is haphazard in their efforts to teach the children they may not return. It’s much like the people who will not return if the restrooms are dirty. It’s amazing the similarities between having a clean restroom and a well-run children’s ministry. Not many people want to do it but it’s critical for people to want to return and be a part of what you have to offer.
It takes a special person to work with children. It’s a calling. It has been said if a person can teach a toddler they can teach anyone. I think we have it backwards sometimes. We put new teachers in with the children and graduate them to youth and adults when we should start them with adults who are more apt to overlook a few mistakes like dirt in the sanctuary and graduate them to teaching children. After all, it takes greater skill to keep the attention of a toddler than it does an adult who is practiced in focusing.
Sometimes we see children’s ministry as unimportant, and yes, sometimes gross, and yet it is vital to the growth of a church. The jobs involved with taking care of children such as changing diapers and wiping noses do not come with great honor. However, if parents see we care enough to take care of their children, they will see we have enough love to share with them as well. By loving children you love their parents. Jesus asked Peter, “Do you love me?” Peter responded, “You know I do!” Then Jesus said, “Feed my sheep.” If we love the adults in our congregation we must love what’s important to them, their children!
Just as a custodian must give special care to clean the toilets if we are to have people return a second time, we must give attention to children’s ministry if we want families to return.